Child Arrangements
These are some of the issues that we might cover in discussing your children
Finding the New Normal
There is lots of information available to help separating parents manage this very difficult transition.
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A mediator can signpost you to apps that will help keep communication civil and to a minimum.
There is a parenting plan template on the Cafcass website that can provide a basis for discussion in mediation and there are courses available for newly separated parents, which help avoid some of the pitfalls.
Birthdays
As a family, you may have celebrated birthdays all together. Yours, your children's,
your parents'...
In mediation we will find a way to plan for birthdays so that everyone is prepared and on board with what the plan is going to be.
Religious Holidays
You may share the same faith as your ex, you may have a different faith or have none.
Going forward as parents, you both have a say about religious upbringing and cultural heritage.
Your child is made up of half of each of you. In mediation we can discuss how to make the most of that.
Schooling
Both parents are entitled to direct communication from the school so if you are not on their contact list, make sure that going forward you hear directly about school updates.
As parents, this remains one of your joint responsibilities and it can present issues on separation.
It is essential that your child's education does not become collateral damage.
Holidays
It may seem unthinkable that your children would go on holiday without you but with advance planning and co-operation, this too can be managed so that you both are able to make memories with them.
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We can find a level of detail and communication that you feel comfortable with.
